Lonely and Ready to Scream, One Women Shares Her Plea for an Answer to Loneliness
Feeling the weight of loneliness can be overwhelming, especially after many years of living alone. For those over 60, it may seem like the chances of meeting a special someone have diminished. This heartfelt question from this woman highlights the deep longing for connection and the frustration of enduring solitude despite numerous efforts.
Question: I am 60+. I lived alone for nearly 15 years. I have tried everything to meet someone. Is it simply never going to happen to me again? No one can imagine how lonely it is. I just want to scream.
Answer: Never mind “meeting someone”. You get out there and get involved in ANYTHING you have a love for, whether that be concerts, charity work, IT learning (or volunteering to teach!), ice skating, poetry, helping sometimes at an animal rescue, or hiking with a group…or whatever, out of so many possibilities.
And just enjoy that thing you have a passion for and get on with it. At the very least you will make some good acquaintances who might brighten up your life, At a bit deeper level you could end up becoming real friends with some of those people.
And one thing I have learned in life is…when you have a few good friends, or even one or two good friends, you can end up invited to gatherings, and new pathways can open up for you. Literally anything can happen, so let those pathways open in a natural way.
I made some lovely friends simply from just putting a bowl of fresh water at my gate for passing dogs (and people with them obviously) It was quite amazing how many interesting people I met who were on my wavelength. I got to know them and realised I had given them something too, and they were feeling a bit forlorn and alone also. (We always imagine others we see passing by who have a smile on their faces, are perfectly fine in their lives and not alone or feeling unsure like we are! How wrong we can be!)
Don’t feel too desperate. Desperation has a peculiar energy about it. Just live your life and involve yourself in something you like and believe in, whatever that may be.
Let things evolve naturally. If something is meant to be it will happen, so widening your horizons can’t hurt.
And if you follow that genuine course, you are just going to end up being a magnet for exactly the right “special person” to meet!
Keep your spirits up.
60+ and Moving Forward
Instead of letting desperation take hold, focus on living a passionate and involved life. Engage in activities you love, let connections form naturally, and trust that if it is meant to be, the right person will come into your life. Keeping your spirits high and widening your horizons can lead to unexpected and fulfilling encounters. Remember, life’s greatest surprises often come when you least expect them.
